The first ground rule for both sexes is knowledge about your genital organs and their functions. A lot of ignorance about sexual anatomy still prevails. Let me give you the example of Shilpa, a lady architect, who told me, 'We went on our honeymoon with marriage manuals on sex, as both of us did not have any knowledge about it. I was the baby of the family and therefore my parents and my elder sister kept me away from sexual information.' One can multiply such cases many times. Know your own as well as your partner's anatomy thoroughly. You can always tell her that you would like to look at her 'down there'. She may initially resist but on repeated pleadings she will ultimately permit you. The anatomy and physiology of the male and female genital organs are outlined in special literature. Read on and realise the curative effect of your newly acquired knowledge. You are now on the way to win your 'war' against sexual inadequacy with the most potent and powerful weapon—knowledge.